I am truly grateful for each of you for sharing your thoughts regarding the previous post on Woman 2 Women! I love that so many of you share my concern with helping women build genuine, long-term friendships. I was speaking about this with my sister as well, and she has brought something else to my attention. We both agree that women may have been set up from the beginning!! Ridiculous right?
This may be a stretch, but think about something as simple as entering the women’s restroom…what have you noticed? There are stalls that separate us from one another, in comparison to men’s restrooms where they normally share an open space when handling their business (sorry if I’ve already grossed some of you out). I’m not saying that I want to do away with stalls at this point (because I’ve grown accustomed to expecting this), but I am just raising some questions about the messages that we have been receiving and sending.
In my previous post on Woman 2 Women, many commented on the fact that many women may lack confidence in themselves, therefore prompting even more insecurities. These insecurities would most likely prevent any individual from socializing and taking the opportunity to build relationships with others. Personally speaking, if I do not feel secure in my finances, appearances, work status, or relationships, then this will pose as a major barrier to communicating honestly and openly with others. I would spend my time focusing on whether or not the individual was criticizing me for one of the above mentioned reasons, rather than sharing this moment with them/doing more to get to know them.
Why was I ashamed? Why was I embarrassed of having others inquire about my the status of my relationship, my finances, or comment on my weight?
What came to mind is that I lacked confidence in myself. So, I wanted to dedicate this post to helping others find their strengths, improving their self-confidence…and running with it!
Here is what has worked for me with gaining confidence:
- I stopped believing that I needed to compete with others
- Wrote down my expectations and goals for myself
- Figured out a step by step plan on how to meet my goals and expectations
- Stopped complaining (well I cut down on this..lol) about not being where I thought I needed to be with my goals
- Encouraging myself daily with positive messages
- Started enjoying my experiences and being truly grateful for my family, friends, career, and health
Responses from others on how to build confidence:
1) Through prayer
2) Figuring out what you do best
3) Finding out what makes you different from anyone else, and embracing these differences.
I had every intention of linking peer-reviewed articles to this post on how to build confidence in women, but I’m having a difficult time discovering articles that don’t focus on women competing with men in the workforce! Don’t get me wrong. There are tons of advice columns, blogs, and inspirational quotes on pinterest that discuss ways we can build confidence. But, I am also looking for research based studies that offer more insight into how to help others seriously facing challenges in this area address this issue.
How do you gain confidence? Was this something that happened relatively quickly, or did you develop this confidence over time?
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