Anxious Much?

October 17, 2018October 17, 2018 / Sharece Campbell, LMFT I Postpartum Doula / Leave a comment

I AM TIRED!

Not physically tired, but…mentally drained. I am such a Type A person and sometimes this can be exhausting. Who am I kidding lol, this can be MESSY. I love who I am. I just need to establish better boundaries for my self-care.

Having a Type A personality means that I have a tendency to remind myself of the time urgency with pretty much everything. This includes big tasks and even those smaller ones that don’t seem to matter. Funny because I know this about myself and I also forget this very fact about myself as well.

So, on the days where I feel a little extra winded and determined to complete my “forever list”, I don’t realize that I create this madness in my head until it’s too late. *slaps forehead*

Something that I have changed to counter this madness is to be intentional about quieting my mind. This process will look different for every person. But for me, I acknowledge my own weaknesses in this area. I’ve honestly tried different ways on becoming less anxious in my thoughts, and I have been successful…but this hasn’t lasted longer than maybe a few days. I’m not capable of taking on such a task on my own, so I ask God to help me here. I have to pray for peace of mind and the ability NOT to go crazy from my self-made issues.

What is your personality type and how has this impacted your level of stress?

I refuse to be so overcome by my lists that I miss out on what’s presently more important. Like enjoying my family. Recently I’ve seen myself stop errands midway and just walk away, even for just a few hours or to pick them back up the next day. What an impact this has made on my sanity!

Trust me, this has been more difficult than it seems. For those of us who live by calendars, and to do lists…you know what taking a break means. Your mind may still not shut off. Even if you physically remove yourself from a task, you may still be talking to yourself about all that is left for you to do..and how you’re going to get it done.

Don’t get too hard on yourself because there is still hope!

Since I have temporarily transitioned from an office job to an at home job in caring for my little one, I’ve had to adjust my schedule completely from a set in stone calendar of responsibilities to allowing myself to be physically and emotionally present for myself and for my family. I’ve made the change because I’ve seen how challenging I’ve made things for myself with lists, and lists, and lists! Did I mention how unnecessary many of these were?!

I take comfort in meditating on reminders such as these:

“That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? Can all your worries add a single moment to your life” ? Matthew 6:25 & 27

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When I actually took a step back and allowed God to take control of my anxious mind and give me the opportunity to be present emotionally and physically for my family…I have truly been blessed! My days are so much lighter. I let go of things that I would normally hold onto for weeks. I smile more just because and I am genuinely happier. We all still have a ton of things to get done, so I’m not completely pushing off these responsibilities. What I AM doing is giving myself the opportunity to “take a break”, when before I would say this but this wasn’t actually the case. I want to be able to forgive myself for trying to do it all…ALL of the time!

My hope is that we all learn how to breathe a little easier and take in those moments that we used to ignore or may not even have noticed because we were knee-deep in our running tab of errands and things to get done before the days end. If you’re willing…allowing your prayers and your faith to shift your worries to be more manageable if this is something that you haven’t tried.

Until Next Time 🙂

XOXO ~Sharece

@befree2love

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Reflect…Reset…and Go

September 24, 2018September 24, 2018 / Sharece Campbell, LMFT I Postpartum Doula / 2 Comments

I’m back and I’ve missed you!! I’ve spent a ridiculous amount of time trying to get back to doing what I love. To be completely transparent I needed a break because I was beginning to feel overwhelmed. Yes, this is a normal part of life, but I admit that I didn’t exercise healthy ways of dealing with stress. My initial response has been to shut down or say “I’m fine”! I wanted more for myself, for my family and I needed to see immediate results.

I’ve spent a ton of time focusing on nurturing my faith in Jesus Christ. Something that I’ve always ranked last in my life, but now that has shifted. I’ve also prayed about seeking peace, health and direction for my future.

Basically, I’ve lost sight on what I wanted. One thing I knew for sure was that I wanted to write because I enjoy it. I’m also passionate about encouraging others and healing relationships, so writing is one way I can do that.

It’s been forever since I’ve written a post and so much has changed. Fast forward a few years: I’m married to an incredibly amazing man, we relocated to a bigger home from an apartment, and our lives changed for the better after we had our son. So, life came at me fast, but that’s ok. 🙂

I’m here to say hello and that I’ll be getting back to sharing stories, resources and encouragement with my online family!

I’m hoping this may reach someone who may have been struggling to get back into a routine that they’ve lost sight of or something that brings them joy. You’re probably never going to find the most “perfect” circumstances to begin again and another day will be lost if you don’t start today. It’s also perfectly reasonable to give yourself time to regroup and refresh when you feel the need to do so.

To be encouraged in faith, love & happiness, be sure to follow my blog!

Cheers to new beginnings!

Sharece
@befree2love

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Making Life Happen

January 28, 2016September 24, 2018 / Sharece Campbell, LMFT I Postpartum Doula / 16 Comments

Hey everyone!

If you had the opportunity to do anything that you wanted, something that made you absolutely happy…what would that be?

While speaking with Nosyjosie at Mind Jo Business, she helped inspire this topic by letting me know how she had to change her thinking. Please check out her blog if you haven’t already done so. Her ideas and amazing, and her posts are encouraging and funny.

It’s no secret that we all want to be happy. So, wouldn’t you think that there were more people making this happen on their own? Let me ask you this…What honestly motivates you? Is this an internal pull, or an external pull, both? Are you calling the shots, or is a family member, a boss, a significant other, or social media reminding you what you should be doing…right down to the very second you should be doing so?

For some people, you most likely won’t have to rack your brain when coming up with your answer. You’ve already made it your business to do exactly what your heart desires. I commend ya! You have the means and the dedication to follow through with these desires.

For a very long time I was undecided and without definite direction. I was down on myself big time! I would remind myself of my age and link that up to where I was “supposed” to be. I would remind myself what I “needed” to be doing, because I’ve been hearing this for all of my life. How I should look, how I should be communicating with others, which careers to pursue based on the highest amount of income. I had to really sift through these messages to find what I was looking for (I share the details in a previous post here). It is not the best feeling to go against the grain, but often times this is necessary.

I also understand that your current life situation may not always allow you to live how you’d like to. Even if you are unable to fullfill your life-long dream this very second, how about planning for the future? How will you get there? What do you need to do? Who do you need to speak with? How much money will you realistically need to save? These are questions that will hopefully encourage you to begin living your best, because YOU have made this decision.

Get it DONE! It’s never too late.

XOXO

~Sharece @befree2love

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