Heart 2 Heart//Changing Your Attitude

Kicking off the Heart 2 Heart series with a lesson of love for yourself…change your attitude.

This speaks to me in such a huge way.  I have been somewhat stuck in a cycle of negativity.   I know…how awful!

I started to be short with loved ones, and I had no idea what was happening.  I of course was the last to realize that I was “stuck”.  When I woke up, I made it a point to do something different.  I wanted to change my attitude…in fact, I needed to do this.  I was only torturing myself, and this was beginning to weigh on my soul!

I know that I have been taking many of the things in my life for granted, and that is not how I want to live my life. I

I want to be happy, so why not make this happen?

I want to be successful with my goals, so why not take those first steps to change the direction I want to go?

I don’t want to complain all of the time, about things that I am not willing to change, so why not work on resolutions instead?

This is how I spent my day yesterday.  Yes, this is something that I have done in the past, but I allowed myself to get caught up again.  I wasn’t taking the time to replenish myself, and prioritize my own self-care. To be honest, this was an extremely refreshing day.  I realized that I was sabotaging my own happiness. What I needed was to check my own attitude.

*Sidebar* I always hear people saying that they will treat others how they are treated by those same people…I don’t even want to do this.  I really want to take charge of my own life, and not have anyone dictate my attitude.  Saying you want to be happy, and actually chosing to be are completely different….again, I’m realizing this now.  For such a long time, I knew what it would take for me to be happy, and alter my mood, but have been inconsistent with making this happen.

So simple, but yet I was making this much harder than it needed to be.

I really took the time to count my blessings, and appreciate where I was in my life.  As a result, my day was brighter.  I was less cranky and annoyed, and kept on smiling for just the thought of being in control of my own happiness.

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I am Thankful for…

  • My health
  • My boyfriend returning home safely after traveling for work for the last five weeks (for my own selfish reasons)
  • My family and my friends (for their love and continuous support. Thanks for sharing my blog with others, and encouraging me to be great!!)
  • My career which allows me to pursue my dream of helping mend relationships

What are you Thankful for?

~FreeBryd

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Fix My Relationship Friday’s//Vol.1~Cont’d

Hey All!

Here is the second round of interviews from today’s Fix My Relationship series…

Click here to read the previous post/interviews, if you missed this earlier.

Interview#1

He relocated for college a few years before me, and I joined him. Higher education was necessary for him.  He went to grad school.  I also moved to another state to begin college.  I was never unfaithful. But I was fearful that he would cheat on me, because we weren’t together. Trust was our biggest challenge. I knew in my heart that he was probably unfaithful, but I still ignored this gut feeling because I loved him so much. We did not physically see one another often, but we would always be communicating. We Skyped, texted, and spoke on the phone very frequently.  We were able to visit one another once every 2 months if we were lucky. 

Advice: Our relationship was built on a solid foundation of friendship, so that kept me going. If you truly care about the person, then do whatever it takes to make this work.

Interview #2 Shana (wanted a shout out lol)

We knew one another for a few months before entering into a long distance relationship.  I went away for school briefly, while in this relationship. I didn’t know what I was doing.  I came back home after the first semester away, because I missed him.  I was in a bad mind-set at that time. I probably would have stayed away at school longer if I wasn’t dating him. I have never, and will never cheat on anyone.  I’m in it for the long haul.  I do what I can to try to make my relationships work, because this is what I want. I would rather end the relationship than cheat.  The biggest challenge, was not seeing one another often. It is very hard to develop something more if you don’t see them.  

You also need to know how they are in person, and this may be less likely to happen with long distance.  Sex isn’t my top priority. I’m more concerned about learning how to resolve our issues.  What happens if we disagree? This is something that we had to constantly work on. It was harder to talk on the phone about these disagreements. We spoke constantly via video chat, even though it kept freezing lol.  We visited one another once that month, and were still getting to know each other.

Advice: Compromise!! Make sure they’re worth it (good convos, do we argue, willing to see one another). Google “advice” on long distance relationship for tips, to help make the most of the time you have with one another. Make it fun!! Video chatting is a must. People are afraid to take risks…but, step out on faith.  New experiences make your life better. If you’re unhappy, then you need to move on, and that’s still ok.  People are also afraid to be by themselves…and unfortunatley they jump into any relationship. Work on yourself when you have that time away from your significant other, until you are able to be together again.

Interview #3:

Long distance relationships are tough. When I first got into my relationship 13 years ago it was long distance. He was in college away and I was home. We knew it would be long distance to start and it actually made us stronger being away. When we would see one another we rarely argued since we were so happy to be spending time together. We usually saw each other once a month for the first year of our relationship. We have had moments where our relationship was long distance again but for shorter periods between 2-4 months. Neither of us were tempted to cheat during our long distance period and I think that is largely due to missing one another and having great times when we could be together.

I will say that long distance is very hard, but feasible and sometimes can make your relationship stronger. As they say absence makes the heart grow fonder! It can also harm the relationship because you get used to always having great moments that when you see one another daily the smaller arguments get frustrating because you think back to when you didn’t argue, because all your time was spent doing fun things.

Advice: Be clear about your expectations. Dating long distance also sets expectations that when you are long distance, when you do spend time together you tend to have sex more during that short visit that normally wouldn’t occur if spending time daily with one another. All in all it can work if both parties want it to.

*End of Interviews*


Thanks for joining me today!  Doors are open for feedback.  Would you date long distance? Have you ever experienced this?  Would you try this again? Please share your success, struggles, never look back stories and teachable moments for others…Let’s talk about it!

~FreeBryd