Upgrading Your Support System

What are some of the ways that you take care of yourself?

I spend a lot of time thinking of new ways that I can improve my overall well-being. I read new books (mystery and suspense appear to be my new thing), blog, listen to comforting music, and planning mini getaways.

Out of all of these options, nothing is more important to me than spending time with the significant people in my life.

I absolutely love being with my support team!

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But!

What works best for me is being able to communicate with others. Not just anyone, but someone who I can honestly trust with my feelings. Someone whose perspective means the world to me.  I enjoy being able to bounce ideas off of, and just vent to these listening ears.

I’m fortunate enough to have a huge group of people who will always have my best interests in mind. Being around these individuals helps me to reduce any unnecessary stress, make me laugh, and help to get my mind off of the latest “issue”.

Those of you who may be struggling to find energy, find yourself becoming more irritable and unhappy, and have tried different ways to recharge, with very little success…try reaching out to friends and family. They may not even know how much of a positive influence they can be in your life. You may not even know how helpful these individuals can be.

How do you make new friends?

While away in Mexico for my recent vacation, I pushed myself to meet new people. Instead of waiting for someone to “notice” me, I initiated many of the conversations with others. For the 7 days that I was in Mexico, I figured that I’d make the most of the trip, since this was basically my home away from home. I participated in activities that I would normally shy away from (pool volleyball is an example of this). The sound of the activity didn’t necessarily appeal to me, but I gave it a try anyway.

These structured activities were a great way for many new people to meet. My team obviously had a shared goal in mind, and we definitely worked hard with achieving this by any means (quite successfully might I add).  As I discussed in my previous post (My Time Away In Mexico), I was able to gain new friendships. I plan on keeping in contact with each of them!

You can also try to:

  • Join a gym to find a group of people who share similar interests (different classes: zumba, cycling, etc).
  • Have a potluck at your house (I plan on doing so this week). Each person can bring a friend in addition to a dish.
  • Spend time with co-workers (get to know them outside of work? Maybe you’ll have more in common than you think).

Don’t have any close family or friends whom you would consider confiding in? Take it outside then, and meet some new faces!! Many of us enjoy blogging, and even share some of the most intimate details of our lives with others within the blogging community. I think this is great! I absolutely love blogging, and look forward to continue meeting such wonderful people.

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How about using that same confidence used via Internet connection, and use that in our everyday lives as well??

Share a little bit more with others, be open to trying new things, and starting conversations with a new face. I’m hoping that you’ll be able to make some healthy, long-lasting relationships with new people. Your health just might depend on it!

But first, you’ll have to be willing to put in the work. I personally don’t thrive on relationships where I don’t feel as though I’m benefiting from. I want to share details about my life, and want others to be willing to do the same. So, be sure to have an idea in mind about what type of relationships you’d like to have with others.

How do you make new friends? What are you looking for in a friend?

~FreeBryd

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My Time Away In Mexico//Self-Care

Hi All, 🙂

I’ve never been on a vacation longer than 5 days. My boyfriend and I were able to relax, and refresh for 7 full days this time! We spent our getaway at an all-inclusive Secrets resort in Cancun, Mexico.

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Before this trip, I was beginning to feel run down. Both of us felt that this would be the perfect time to travel, since things had calmed down a bit for work.  I was eager to say the least, and even finished packing 2 weeks prior to our trip…I can never prepare enough lol.

To start off, I’m not a great plane passenger by any means.  I absolutely dread getting on airplanes, but I try not to let this keep me from traveling. I have a heart rate monitor attached to my watch. My resting heart rate before each flight ranged between 77-88. I’m not in the medical field, so hopefully this is standard. Anywho, once we entered into the air, my heart rate began increasing steadily. :-/ The first patch of turbulence I peaked at 142. My boyfriend probably thought I was losing my mind, since I kept my head in his armpit for most of each flight haha. But the flight was worth it.

Mexico was absolutely beautiful. The weather forecast called for rain for the entire 7 days. I was devastated, but quickly learned that these rainstorms were more like little patches of rain that lasted for less than 10 minutes.

Our resort was breathtaking. The only downside was that we were literally in the middle of nowhere. From the shuttle to the resort, it took about 35 minutes to get to our destination. Along the way, we passed the “hotel zone”, which is where the majority of tourists, and the locals meet to shop and eat. Yeah, yeah…I know 35 minutes isn’t that long. We could have very well taken a cab to enter back into the more populated area, but we decided not to. We met some incredible people during our stay, and spent the bulk of our time within our little community. 🙂

There were 7 bars/lounges, 9 restaurants (did I mention it was all-inclusive!!!!!), and 3 huge pools. I don’t think I’ve ever had as much fun as I did on this trip!

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*My favorite bar near the pool. On the bottom, there is a swim up bar as well.*

My favorite dish was the seafood paella. It came with mussels, shrimp, and calamari. I’ve never had anything this tasty before! Yuuuuuummmmm!

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What we did in Mexico:

Everyday a newsletter was delivered to our room. This was our way of becoming updated on the daily events and activities. They had a schedule beginning from 8 am, to after hours! There was something scheduled to fit every need.

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We were able to attend cirque du soleil shows, karaoke nights, live bands, comedy shows, hip-hop concerts, and participate in water sports.

On our 2nd night, I signed my boyfriend up to be a judge for the Mexican version of American idol. Wow! Everyone was a great performer, even if they couldn’t sing lol. It was just fun to watch, and everyone was willing to let loose! One guy even brought me to tears with his performance. I’m such a sap haha! His song was beautiful, and he gave us an incredible performance. Another woman sang with so much soul.

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Who knew that just a day later, we would connect, and swap contact info to keep in touch.

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While kayaking, I absolutely thought that I would get lost at sea. We chose the windiest day to go out and be brave souls, and this probably wasn’t the best idea for a nervous wreck like myself. We were extremely far into the ocean. I kept telling myself that there were sharks swimming beneath me in the dark water…crazy right?!

What I loved most was being able to sleep in, without having a set plan for the day. This is major for me, because I tend to live by the book most days (due to work, and enjoying having things set in place).  I hadn’t realized how much I needed this break from my “routine”. I enjoyed reading poolside, as well as by the beach. Take me back!

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My advice for others traveling to Mexico…

Load up on your sunscreen. We packed a bottle,  but I still don’t think this was enough. As we speak, my skin has already started to “crack” lol. Towards the end of the week, my boyfriend and I were rationing out the last of the bottle.

Please bring bug spray!! I don’t know why we failed to pack this! The mosquitoes don’t care what time of day it is…if you’re available, they’ll find ya! They took advantage of my innocence the very first night! That’s what we get for taking a trip to the beach to watch the sunset. Amateurs lol.

Plan ahead if you’d like to do excursions (riding ATV’s, swimming with dolphins, etc.). We planned to look into this when we got to the resort, but this wasn’t a priority. I don’t feel as though we missed out. However, if there was something set up before we arrived, I think that both of us would have been more motivated to go. Also, be sure to compare prices, because there are a few places that differ in prices.

Bring your appetite and be open to trying new dishes!

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Pics: (corn soup, stuffed ravioli, calamari, tiramisu, ice cream)

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Please share your experiences during your vacations, or any upcoming plans for re-charging/improving your self-care after such a busy year!

~FreeBryd

Connect With Me//Over a Cup of Coffee

Hey Blog Family,

We had such a great turnout for the last Mix and Mingle…so, it’s time for another one!  Let’s take a moment to say hi to someone new, and possibly gain a long-term friend!

Let’s pretend that we are sharing a cup of coffee (or some other fancy drink if coffee isn’t your thing).  Over this cup of coffee, we will share details about our week with one another.  This idea was inspired by the Writing 101 course that I’ve signed up for via WordPress.

As always, thanks for joining! Now, let’s grab a cup of coffee!

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If we were drinking coffee right now, I’d let you know that I’ve recently wrote an Open Letter To My Father.  I’ve never been so transparent before with him.  I was able to share most of my thoughts and feelings that I’ve been keeping safe since childhood.  My father and I have grown much closer over the last couple of years, so I felt that we were in a better place to be able to communicate more freely and open.  In response to the letter, he let me know that I wasn’t actually a headache for him…lol. He shared some personal feelings of his own from these earlier experiences. Nothing but smiles from me! I am even trying to plan for a family reunion…something we’ve never done before with my father’s side of the family.

If we were drinking coffee right now, I’d let you know that in about a week, I will be traveling to Mexico for 7 days!! I am excited for the well deserved vacation, the food, the activities, and dancing!  I’ve been trying my best to eat healthier, and become more physically active.  I do worry that my healthy lifestyle will suffer…just a smidge, because I’ll be in such an exotic place.  Anyone who knows me, understands how serious I am about my food.  I’ll plan  to do some outside activities to keep my heart rate up…in exchange for eating any and everything, and relaxing on most days.

If we were drinking coffee right now, I’d let you know that while I’m away in Mexico, I will miss blogging as often as I’d like.  I’ve honestly grown to look forward to connecting with all of you.  So many opportunities to meet such wonderful people, and become inspired by your posts! But, I’ll be happy to update all of you on how awesome this trip has been when I return!

In recognition of today’s Mix and Mingle, I ask that you do the following:

  1. When you share an update, begin with “If I were drinking coffee right now”.
  2. Leave a link to your blog so others can check out your space.
  3. Want to share this post with others? Be sure to pingback and reblog this post.

*Share as little or as much as you’d like*

Happy Sharing!

~FreeBryd

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