Have you ever felt extremely unproductive before? Well, that has been the story of my life for the past few days! I am so guilty lol. I’ve been binge watching a series on Hulu (Devious Maids)! So much drama…but it’s also extremely addicting! This week, I’ve failed to go to the gym or update my blog as often as I’d planned. Needless to say, I couldn’t help but to realize how easy it is to fall into a comfortable routine, and forget about achieving your dreams.
In the past, I have always dreamed about doing more with my life, but never felt any real sense of urgency when considering the response to this question. I had absolutely no clue how to begin preparing a life for myself, where my overall level of happiness scored close to a 10 on a Likert scale.
Should I go back to school? What should I major in? Where will I find a job? So many questions to consider!
What I am saying is that I don’t want to lose sight on what I’ve promised myself I’d accomplish within these next few years. I do worry that I’ll become sucked into the swift current of life, without giving my all to what I’ve planned for myself. But, I can’t let that happen. I need to remind myself daily what it is that I want out of life.
At this time, I do not have a vision board that I can refer to like I’ve heard others speak about. Now I can honestly say that I understand the importance of creating something to this effect. During these past few days, it was so easy for me to say, “I’ll do it later”, because I did not have anything in place to continuously remind me of my aspirations. I absolutely need this!
I have a really long-winded way of saying don’t give up. Don’t give up on your plans, simply because “something comes up”. It is alright to take a break…but try your best not to lose sight on the bigger picture. Luckily, I have family and friends in my corner who are able to snap me back into reality. But honestly, this is not their responsibility.
I have to want more for myself, and I do. I just need to find ways to encourage me not to lose sight of this!
Here is what I plan to do:
Create a detailed vision board (so I have no questions about what I want my future to look like)
Speak about my goals to others (the more I discuss this, the more I will speak this into existence)
Make a list of small steps that will help me reach my goals (less overwhelming for me to target smaller tasks first)
Listen to the advice I would give to others (not to be so hard on myself…I will make mistakes and have days where I want to give up–>but get back on track asap)
These little gems will help to keep me on the right path. Take a break, go on vacation, binge watch your favorite tv series. We all need days such as these to help us recharge. Just remember that sooner or later you’ll need to get back to what you’ve started.
What do you use to help motivate and remind you to continue pursuing your dreams?
Annoyed with how someone has been mistreating you? Not thrilled about your current status of your relationship? These are just a few of many complaints that I have heard, whether personally, or in conversations with others. I felt compelled to address something that has been heavy on my mind, and hope that I can help provide some guidance to fellow complainers.
Listen, let me just share with you that I’ve complained a lot! I know that I’m not alone, so don’t judge me too much. I know that communicating what upsets me comes naturally. I’m sure my sister doesn’t mind haha! But then what? I share this with others, and go on about my day only to revisit the same complaint the following day? Sounds crazy…right? Believe me I know!
Here is a book that has helped shake me out of the deja vu I was constantly experiencing:
Dance of Anger by Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D.
Originally, this book was assigned to me as a class assignment during my Graduate program. But, I’ve referred back to this book on several occasions. Don’t get turned off by the description of the book being a “woman’s guide”. I do not feel as though women are the only individuals who can benefit from this read. This book provides examples of how we complain about our life experiences, but often times do nothing to change the outcome if repeated in the future. In addition, Dance of Anger provides helpful feedback on how to break this cycle to make long-term changes in your interactions with others.
I’ve learned new ways of navigating through all of my complaining, to be able to brainstorm and attempt new solutions. Instead of dreading that conversation with someone (that normally goes sour before you’ve realized what’s happened), instead of feeling hopeless that your current situation won’t improve, try jotting down some possible scenarios to instantly reduce those troubles. Sounds simple enough, but not many of us are able to think logically when experiencing feelings of anger, hurt, frustration or sadness.
Remember that you’re perfectly capable of impacting change in your life. Just work on making these changes, INSTEAD of just complaining about them.