How REAL Are Your Relationships?

Hey All!

Let me just start by saying…I’ve missed the blog world. I won’t make excuses for being away for some time now. I wasn’t the greatest at balancing my new work schedule with everything else I had going on. I have some draft posts just waiting to be acknowledged, but haven’t been keeping up with writing. I’m really excited to shake the dust off.

Secondly, this topic was inspired by my home skillet Chanelle. She’s one of my besties, whose been in my life for over 10 years now. ūüôā¬†She’s one of the same friends who I mentioned starting the GroupMe app with…where we can keep track of one another’s progress towards our fitness goals. That has picked up lately as well. I was talked into completing a 21 day clean eating challenge. No worries, because it will be ending right in time for Thanksgiving lol.

Any who, as my friends and I were chatting, Chanelle asked my friend Shana and I a series of questions. She wanted to know how we perceived her.  Specifically, what were some things we may have noticed that she may not be aware of.

Talk about being caught off guard haha. I was happy that she felt that she could easily come to me with such a loaded question. Providing feedback to her wasn’t extremely challenging, because we have a healthy relationship.

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How well do others know you? Are others comfortable enough to share openly and genuinely with you? 

This may be a no brainer for some, and can be extremely important in assessing the quality of your relationships with others.

I was asked to share some of my personal thoughts about her as a person. This is something that I honestly don’t find myself doing enough of. Not that I have a laundry list of negative things about anyone that I keep to myself. But, I’ve realized that I probably don’t share those “personal” thoughts and feelings as often as I’d like to.

For me, I find having honest conversations about how I perceive the other person as a benefit. I’m honored that my perspective can¬†mean so much to so many people. I hope that others feel the same way when considering me. I also understand how difficult having tough conversations with others can be. ¬†I still cringe a bit when having to “confront” the elephant in the room. ¬†But, how else can we move forward? What helps for me is to just come right out and say it. ¬†The more I wait and analyze exactly how I want to word things, the more nervous and uncomfortable I become.

I’ve also realized that I put so much thought into many of these conversations, when the other person doesn’t feel the same sense of awkwardness that I’ve been experiencing. ¬†It was mostly in my head…!

I truly appreciate the relationships I share with so many wonderful people.  We inspire and challenge one another daily.  I prefer to keep it real, and not just dance around the difficult issues.

If you don’t feel completely comfortable with sharing honestly with friends and family, then what is getting in the way of knocking down these barriers?

~FreeBryd

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Law of Attraction

So, I have so much to be thankful for…I’m all smiles!

In the past, I have set goals for myself regarding my career, family, etc. I specifically remember my boyfriend and I having a conversation on this very topic.  He challenged me to write down what I was looking for career wise.  I knew what I wanted, and made the choice that day to create my mini version of a vision board.

My career goals were:

  • I would like to continue helping families in the mental health field (improve, and strengthen their relationships with others)
  • Advance in my career (first step: become a supervisor).
  • Balance my work week with being in the office as well as meet with families within the community (So, I get to plan and organize, as well as engage with others)
  • Have a flexible work schedule
  • Not work any weekends or Holidays

I feel extremely blessed to say with confidence that I have now been working at a new position, that meets every one of my goals that I’ve set for myself career wise at this time. ¬†I didn’t believe that I would find such a position within the first year of writing these goals down initially. ¬†The most exciting thing about this is the fact that I believed in myself. ¬†I knew what I wanted, and went after this! I just didn’t know that I was doing everything I needed to do to help me reach my goals. Now I have that confirmation!

One of my besties, Chanelle, put me onto this Youtube video (Mastering The Art of Attraction).  This video discussed how we each have the ability to reach our full potential. But, doing so all starts with how you are talking to yourself.  You will attract like-minded people, you will attract the lack of money that you continue to complain about, and you will attract that job that you believe in your heart is right for you.

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Ultimately, you have a choice in how you will respond to what’s happened to you.

This isn’t a secret. ¬†However, truly give this some thought…

My advice, is not to settle¬†for what you do not ¬†believe in. ¬†If you’re unhappy, then change your thinking. Maybe even consider changing the people you’ve chosen to associate with. ¬†I know everyone in my corner speaks positively as often as possible. ¬†They push me to go after the more difficult decisions, and challenge me to obtain greater for myself. ¬†Also, write down what it is that you want for yourself. ¬†The more you do this, and communite these goals to others, the more you will continue to hold yourself accountable to them as well.

It feels incredible to get what you want!

What goals have you set for yourself, and what are you doing to make sure you reach them?

Much Love,

~FreeBryd

Nominations//2 For 1 Special 

Hey My Online Community!

So, I’ve been a total flop these past two weeks since returning from my getaway in Mexico. I feel like so much has changed since that time, and I’m waiting to get things back on track.

I was in the process of transitioning into a new position, which I start this week, and planning 3 events (birthday parties, and a potluck with some great friends. ūüôā Needless to say, I have been on the go ever since touching back down in the U.S. So, my apologies for not being as active via the blog world as I’d like to be.

I wanted to wait until I felt “fresh” enough to begin posting regularly again, before jumping right in when my head wasn’t completely in the game. Now, I feel like I can catch back up with life again.

I enjoy blogging so much, and I really enjoy meeting such incredible people. With that being said, I was recently nominated for two more awards…woooohooo! I have arrived haha!

I was nominated by itsgoodtobecrazysometimes, for the Dragon Loyalty Award.

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From her site, I’ve learned that this award is a way to give thanks for being a loyal fan/commenter. Thank you for the recognition! I always try my best to keep up with the blogs that I follow, for several reasons. I would want others to take the time out to read my posts, I really do look forward to growing my online community, and I always come across some great info provided to me by other bloggers. You guys are all awesome!

The rules for the Dragon Loyalty Award:

  • Give thanks to the blogger for the nomination (shout out via pingback or posting a link to their site)
  • Write about 5 facts about myself
  • Spread love by nominating additional bloggers

Alright, here goes! 5 facts about me:

  • My favorite snack is popcorn and Swiss rolls! I’d eat this everyday if I wouldn’t gain any weight lol.
  • I enjoy planning events for other people. I’d love to this on the side. I love figuring out all of the little details, and making people happy.
  • I have poor impulse control when it comes to shopping. It’ll take me hours to get “one thing”, because I’m too busy spending more money than I should.
  • My favorite channel is Food Network. I’d like to believe that I was a chef in my former life. I could binge¬†watch this channel all day! I also enjoy watching Cake Boss. The designs on the cakes are so cool!
  • I’ve cut out about 90% of sugary drinks. I am trying to lead a healthier lifestyle. Drinking water most of the time has been one of the better decisions that I’ve made. ūüôā

I was also nominated again for the Liebster award by Nena at YOUnfolded.

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Click HERE to find my response to this award in a previous post. This award is to show appreciation for bloggers for their continuous inspiration to others.

Nena, put a twist on this award in regards to her questions. ¬†She asked what my advice would be for new bloggers. ¬†I¬†would remind all of you (new, or have been here for a while) to always take time to care for yourself. I’ve seen many posts about blogger burnout, myself included in this toll as well. Planning my posts in advance (having a calendar set up, as well as back up posts for those struggle days), have been extremely helpful!

If you’re feeling like you still can’t find your creative side, then I would encourage you to take a break. I don’t believe blogging should be hard work. This should be fun, and a way to connect with others. So, don’t beat yourself up if today isn’t a great day. Try again once you take some time off. We’ll still be here :-).

I’ve decided to nominate a few of my newest blogger buddies for the¬†Liebster Award.

Nominees:

  1. Claire @ Wanderings of Claire
  2. Cavelle @ Mental Break In Progress
  3. Aphropuphs @ The Hair Garden
  4. MRCKFLO

If you have already received the Liebster award, Pay It Forward (as Nena would say), and please pass it along to another blogger. ūüôā

Now, off to prepping for my Potluck that will take place within the next few hours.

~FreeBryd

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