What’s Your Love Language?

I loved every part of Gary Chapman’s book titled, The 5 Love Languages. A quick summary of this book is that it was written to help us identify how we give and receive love in our relationships. There are 5 main expressions of love that the book describes: Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts.

5-love-languages (1)This isn’t my first time completing the quiz. A few years ago I was also curious to see where I ranked. The reason for the updated quiz now, is because I wanted to see how my love language changed after a few important life events: Marriage, a baby, relocating and job changes. I also wanted to take the test again to keep myself focused on growing my relationship as best as I can. With this information I can share it with my husband and he can do the same.

You DO NOT have to take this test in order to discover these qualities about yourself. Many of you already know the answers and have been applying what you know for as long as you can remember. Many of you are also in tune with your significant other and can make these types of changes without breaking a sweat! For those of you who are more of a visual person (guilty), this allows you the opportunity to refer back to your results if need be.

Each of us experiences life events such as career changes, health concerns, a change in finances, relationship status and/or family that impact how we relate to one another. But, what we need to do next is make necessary changes in order to meet our new levels of need. What you want, what you like, what you didn’t want or didn’t like has probably changed and that’s ok too.

Even without experiencing huge life events, what we need from others may very well change as you grow.

The most important thing that I’ve discovered after this quiz, was how our needs have changed. Yes, I knew life would be different. But, this was a reminder to me that my husband and I needed to be regroup in order to continue building our marital foundation.

Something that changed for me was my score for Words of Affirmation (expressing myself and hearing words like “I love you”). Previously this was important to me, but not a deal breaker. I was always shy and believed that people just knew how I felt. I liked hearing nice things but I was also not too hurt if I didn’t. Oh how things have changed!

I absolutely love hearing kind words. I love sharing how I feel with my husband and other loved ones. I’m learning the power of my words. The Bible describes how we each have the power to speak life into others as well as ourselves. I want to encourage and uplift my household and anyone who I may come into contact with. My relationships mean so much to me and I want to nurture them anyway that I can. Positive and clear communication is everything to me now. I’m still working on this though. But no ones perfect, right?

which-love-language-do-you-speakIf you’ve been going though some rough times in your relationships with your significant other, your kids, friends, etc. I would consider taking this quiz. It may help offer more insight into what you need from others and help you to pinpoint exactly what that may be, if you’re having trouble figuring it out. It may also help you better understand someone who you’ve placed in the “they’re just off” category. It’s possible that your view of those relationships may just change.

Take Care of Your Needs and Grow in Your Relationships! Click HERE for the link to the brief quiz to discover your love language!

With Love,

Sharece @befree2love

#LoveFreely

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Make Time For Happiness

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” ~Michelangelo

What do you think it will take for you to make those long-term changes that will immediately benefit your happiness?

I know each of us all want different things.  Many of us spend a lifetime just dreaming about how life could be different. How your job could be better. How you wish that your significant relationships would improve.  But, time continues to go by without us making any changes whatsoever.  Or maybe we don’t take a big enough risk, and we aim too low when attempting to satisfy our own happiness?

I don’t want to spend my life preparing to be genuinely happy, but never fully resting there comfortably.

The reality is that many of us do spend the majority of our lives planning and brainstorming how to make significant changes. But, we don’t always remain consistent with pursuing the steps to get there. Personally, I’m always thinking, reading, praying, and speaking with others, to help move me along in this area. I don’t like feeling stuck, and I definitely don’t want to feel like I’m not doing what’s necessary to live how I’d like to see myself within the next few years. I want to look back and feel confident in my efforts.

I’ve been hesitant about taking risks before. I will admit that I’ve let the fear of the unknown keep me wondering about the possibilities.

I’ve questioned myself plenty of times. I’ve realized that I can’t keep putting things off.  I have so many goals that I’d like to accomplish within the next few years.  So, I’m giving myself a timeline, with deadlines on when this will happen.  To start moving forward with my own plans, I am signing up for a local adult entrepreneur workshop. I’m exicted for this workshop for many reasons.  But, mainly because I am putting forth more effort to be genuinely happy, doing what I’d like to do.  Getting one step closer to my long-term plans!

What do you think it will take for you to make those long-term changes that will immediately benefit your happiness?

XOXO ~Sharece @befree2love

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What are you Thankful For?

As I sit here on this joyous day before the Holiday, I find myself counting my blessings.

I am truly grateful that this year has been more “peaceful” for me.  What I mean is that I do feel as though I have made significant improvements in my overall well-being.  I think about the past when most days was a struggle.  There were times when I was unhappy or finding something to become easily upset about.  Now, I have been actively trying to just “relax”.  I know that I am naturally a high strung person…or at least I have been in the past.  Let me just tell you that this can be extremely time consuming, and simply not healthy.

Even in preparation for this upcoming Holiday, I was stressing about everything that I needed to do (laundry, pack, buy groceries for my contribution dish for Thanksgiving dinner).  I was overwhelmed, and even considered rescheduling a date night that was planned a few days prior.  But, thankfully I didn’t.

I told myself that I needed to keep prioritizing things that matter most.  My relationship gracefully making that list of course.  I would get to the other tasks that I needed to take care of.  I needed that break from my jam-packed to do list.  I felt refreshed! I needed to be selfish, and I was able to be just that.

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So, my hope for all of you celebrating Thanksgiving, is that you take the time to enjoy those moments with your loved ones.

Last time this year, I was busy making sure everyone else had a great time, before I could “take a breather”.  I’m sure no one even noticed how on the go I kept myself those few days.  Before you know it, you’ll be back to work, and maybe you even missed out on some family time.

Don’t let this happen to you!

~~Sharece @befree2love

 

 

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