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Nominations//2 For 1 Special 

Hey My Online Community!

So, I’ve been a total flop these past two weeks since returning from my getaway in Mexico. I feel like so much has changed since that time, and I’m waiting to get things back on track.

I was in the process of transitioning into a new position, which I start this week, and planning 3 events (birthday parties, and a potluck with some great friends. 🙂 Needless to say, I have been on the go ever since touching back down in the U.S. So, my apologies for not being as active via the blog world as I’d like to be.

I wanted to wait until I felt “fresh” enough to begin posting regularly again, before jumping right in when my head wasn’t completely in the game. Now, I feel like I can catch back up with life again.

I enjoy blogging so much, and I really enjoy meeting such incredible people. With that being said, I was recently nominated for two more awards…woooohooo! I have arrived haha!

I was nominated by itsgoodtobecrazysometimes, for the Dragon Loyalty Award.

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From her site, I’ve learned that this award is a way to give thanks for being a loyal fan/commenter. Thank you for the recognition! I always try my best to keep up with the blogs that I follow, for several reasons. I would want others to take the time out to read my posts, I really do look forward to growing my online community, and I always come across some great info provided to me by other bloggers. You guys are all awesome!

The rules for the Dragon Loyalty Award:

  • Give thanks to the blogger for the nomination (shout out via pingback or posting a link to their site)
  • Write about 5 facts about myself
  • Spread love by nominating additional bloggers

Alright, here goes! 5 facts about me:

  • My favorite snack is popcorn and Swiss rolls! I’d eat this everyday if I wouldn’t gain any weight lol.
  • I enjoy planning events for other people. I’d love to this on the side. I love figuring out all of the little details, and making people happy.
  • I have poor impulse control when it comes to shopping. It’ll take me hours to get “one thing”, because I’m too busy spending more money than I should.
  • My favorite channel is Food Network. I’d like to believe that I was a chef in my former life. I could binge watch this channel all day! I also enjoy watching Cake Boss. The designs on the cakes are so cool!
  • I’ve cut out about 90% of sugary drinks. I am trying to lead a healthier lifestyle. Drinking water most of the time has been one of the better decisions that I’ve made. 🙂

I was also nominated again for the Liebster award by Nena at YOUnfolded.

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Click HERE to find my response to this award in a previous post. This award is to show appreciation for bloggers for their continuous inspiration to others.

Nena, put a twist on this award in regards to her questions.  She asked what my advice would be for new bloggers.  I would remind all of you (new, or have been here for a while) to always take time to care for yourself. I’ve seen many posts about blogger burnout, myself included in this toll as well. Planning my posts in advance (having a calendar set up, as well as back up posts for those struggle days), have been extremely helpful!

If you’re feeling like you still can’t find your creative side, then I would encourage you to take a break. I don’t believe blogging should be hard work. This should be fun, and a way to connect with others. So, don’t beat yourself up if today isn’t a great day. Try again once you take some time off. We’ll still be here :-).

I’ve decided to nominate a few of my newest blogger buddies for the Liebster Award.

Nominees:

  1. Claire @ Wanderings of Claire
  2. Cavelle @ Mental Break In Progress
  3. Aphropuphs @ The Hair Garden
  4. MRCKFLO

If you have already received the Liebster award, Pay It Forward (as Nena would say), and please pass it along to another blogger. 🙂

Now, off to prepping for my Potluck that will take place within the next few hours.

~FreeBryd

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When Stress Takes Over 

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“Just breathe”.  This is what I need to say to myself when my thoughts start to become toxic.  What a day I experienced yesterday! I’ve realized that I spend an unimaginable about of time stressing over things that I personally can’t change.  Just reflecting on this today makes my head spin!

Why do I allow myself to take on so much, when realistically agreeing to do EVERYTHING just won’t work? I know exactly why this is…I’m a self-proclaimed people pleaser! I love spending time with my friends and loved ones.  I live for that! But, my sole problem arises when I spend so much time worrying about making everyone else happy, and don’t pay as much attention to my wants as much as I should.

I’m bringing this up, because this is a real problem that I currently face.  Not only am I growing tired of not being able to somehow add more hours into my day, but I want to learn to let go of all of the stress that comes along with overextending myself. I’ve allowed my stress of being unable to make others happy impact how I experienced my day with loved ones. Throughout my day, all I could think about was, what I could have done differently to decrease my current amount of stress? How much time do I have before I have to leave to make it back to go to the next place? I honestly couldn’t even enjoy myself.  I wasn’t living in the moment, and creating new memories.  I was physically present, but mentally and emotionally I was light years away from everyone else.  I won’t be able to get this time back, but I can realize my faults and correct them for future experiences.

What I need to do is learn how to say “no”.  If I am not 100 % sure if I can make this work, then I’ll have to be honest about that too.  It’s not fair that I sacrifice my in the moment experiences with feelings of stress.

I also have to be on top of stopping those forever lurking negative messages that find a way to do a cameo sometime throughout the day.  I need to ask myself: will worrying about this right now change how I am feeling? What are some realistic solutions to decreasing my current amount of stress?

Remember to just breathe.

What challenges do you face with being a people pleaser?  How do you say no?

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Calling All Bloggers

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Hey guys! I am feeling like I need a swift kick in the rear end today.  I’ve been dragging my feet!  I am tired, and not at all feeling 100 % as usual.  It’s been difficult to shake off the funk, and I’ve wanted nothing more than to stay in bed all day.

Normally I have my ideas for my blog posts set up during the beginning of the week.  This seems to work for me, because I’m not super stressed trying to rack my brain for something “cool” to come to mind.  But, today is just not my day.  I wasn’t feeling too hot, and I am in need of some serious strength.

I’m always excited to read the posts that many of you update throughout the week.  I love how motivated all of you are with remaining consistent with your posts. I’ve watched in envy today how you all have been interacting with fellow bloggers, and I just have some questions for you.

Have any of you ever experienced a “blah” day, but more than anything still wanted to update your blog?  Yup, this is my life right now.  How were you able to bounce back from the blah-ness? I’m seeking some tips from anyone willing to share, on how to overcome these feelings and stick to doing what I love most.

~XOXO

FreeBryd

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Sleepless Nights//Thoughts From A Restless Mind 

  
Tossing and turning throughout the night
Wondering if my pillow has been adjusted just right

Growing tired of the continuous switching sides of the bed

Struggling to compete with the racing thoughts in my head

Stop

Thinking about work when you have a few more hours to yourself

What do you have to do tomorrow?

What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I sleep?

Hoping to start that workout that I’ve been neglecting

Ugh!

Maybe I’ll push it off just one more day…

No I won’t…not today

I promised myself to do

Away with the excuses

Besides, don’t you want to see results?

Still noticing that I’m not asleep

The bright green glare from the clock seems to be taunting me

Turned my fans up to the highest setting

The crosswinds and the white noise help to comfort me

I’ll search for a new book on my kindle to help pass the time

Hoping that losing myself in a good read will send me into a peaceful sleep….

Praying for heavy eyelids

Please share what works for you all when you’re trying to sleep.

Are you able to forgive?

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A few days ago I was forced into a 5 week long-distance relationship! Ugh! My boyfriend has to do some traveling for work, and I won’t be able to see him in person until mid September. We’ve been together close to 4 years, and this is the longest amount of time that we have been away from one another.

The day he left was pretty overwhelming for me. I sat in bed just reflecting on our relationship. ALL I could think about during those moments were: If I only had 5 more minutes, I shouldn’t have been so mad at him last week, why didn’t I try to reconcile much sooner?

I played around with these questions in my head for quite some time. Needless to say, I was bummed for not taking more advantage of the time that we did have together. Neither of us are saints. So we do have our share of disagreements, screaming matches, and “I’m not talking to you” days. But, I admit that I have the not so favorable trait of holding a grudge.

Since I was in the position of honestly checking myself, I knew that I was the problem. I often ignore many attempts at forgiveness, all to “make a point”. As I sat there silently reflecting, none of those disagreements mattered. My biggest concern was that I’ve let so much valuable time past. Today, I am telling myself that it is perfectly normal to not always agree 100 % of the time with another person. In fact, it’s IMPOSSIBLE to avoid disagreements with others; especially loved ones WITH whom you’ll constantly interact. What does matter, is how you choose to come back together. Like I’ve mentioned, my best move was to ignore the attempts at moving forward, and would miss opportunities to be able to grow individually and as a couple from these experiences.

I want to learn how to forgive sooner than I have been able to do so in the past. For me, a small argument could end up spilling over into the next day…or maybe even the next after that. I’ve allowed my “anger” to keep me from interacting with someone who I care deeply about…and for what? I seriously asked myself: Aren’t you tired of wishing you did something more after the fact? Indeed I was. So, this changes ASAP.

Some thoughts to keep in mind for my current & future self:
1) Get it together, and do it quick!
~Write or reflect on what happened. Ask yourself: What do I need to see happen to
move on? Is this something that I can do personally? Why are you feeling this way?

2) Remember the love you share.
~Write or reflect on your happiness: Why we are together? Remember the countless
moments consisting of laughs and 100 % weirdness. Do the good times trump the
disagreement?

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3) Check yourself for unnecessary negative thoughts that are keeping you from being
truly happy.
~Write or reflect on what you are telling yourself to “stay” mad:
What are you telling yourself that is keeping you from being able to forgive? I
sometimes think of the worst possible scenario :-/
Do you want things to get better? Always!
What are you doing to keep this from happening now? Being comfortable with being
upset, and often avoiding communicating.

4) Come back together and stop being so dramatic…as I’ve heard before from others
before!
~Apologize, break the ice (say something silly), talk about it, and move on!

I normally don’t share something so personal, and I’m not one to share such intimate details on social media. But, I wanted to do something to get me to take more accountability on following my own suggestions by documenting this. I’ve also learned recently from a close friend that opening up just a little bit more could actually lead you to help others. I don’t know who this post will reach, but I hope this helps.

~With Love,
From Me.

Listen first, Add your two scents later.

Based on the latest poll results, communication appears to be a big concern in many relationships. Can’t say that I’m surprised, because this would be my top choice when doing a quick self-check on what contributes to my relationship happiness.

Thinking back to conversations that I’ve shared with family and friends over the years, I do see a common theme. Placing blame on the person, and pointing out many of their faults. But what about what WE are doing to contribute to the poor communication?

Let’s focus on how WE can make things better, instead of waiting, hoping, and praying that our significant other will make those changes that we have suggested no less than maybe a dozen times each week.

A great place to start would be taking the time to evaluate how you LISTEN when speaking with your partner, co-workers, friends, and family members. One thing I’m guilty of for sure is interrupting..smh. When I’m supposed to be listening, I’m already adding to their story by sharing my own experiences. For example, let’s say one of my siblings shares with me a horrible work experience. Normally, before they can even let me know what happened, I’ve already let them know what I’ve been through. I know many of us do this, because I have witnessed this on multiple occasions and have never given this a second look. I’m not saying not to respond at all, because that would be lame. Nothing worse than expecting to have a conversation, but ending up getting a blank stare and wide eyes. I’m still going to have my gasps, and add my (I can’t believe that) in the background. But I’m wondering what differences we could see if we chose to interrupt less, and did more to change what we are doing to improve our communication versus waiting for the other person to get it together.

Any thoughts or ideas on how to improve how you communicate with others?

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Motivational Monday!

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We’ve all had those moments and experiences where “today is just a bad day.”  Sometimes these experiences can begin to spiral out of control, and before you know it you’re stuck in a rut.  <–The absolute worst right?!

There  is no instant cure that will fix whatever is going on in your life.  But, changing your thinking can give you a new pair of eyes.  This happened to me when someone close to me challenged me to approach my “problem” with a new perspective.  I had two options.  1) stay upset about what I couldn’t change and complain about this, or 2) promise myself not to stay “stuck” and plan for positive change.  Really taking the time to understand what messages I’ve been using to create the dark cloud that I couldn’t escape from.  It WAS me!

Take a few seconds to become upset and vent about what just happened to you.  But don’t keep yourself in the drama.  Choose positive messages that will help you begin to see positive results, and help to instantly change your mood.

When I knew that I couldn’t keep making EXCUSES.

As I sit here writing this blog, it has prompted me to consider how many times I have kept myself from acting on changing how I feel about myself.  Specifically, I am shocked that I have not done more to place myself closer to getting where I’d like to be.  Especially when I am 100 % guilty of complaining about, “not having this”, or “too busy to do that”.  Many of you may share similar experiences such as my own.  You have so many ideas and goals for yourself, but there has always been “something” keeping you from making those same plans come to life.

Creating this blog has been just an idea that I have bounced around in my head for quite some time.  I enjoy writing, and hope to one day publish books that will allow me to share my creativity with the world.  See, there I go again not speaking my dreams into reality.  I WILL have the opportunity of authoring books, speaking of Life, Love & Relationships where I create a place where I remember escaping to from childhood to my present years.  I WILL one day build a place where I am able to help families overcome their pain, and begin to improve their relationships, through treating both mental and behavioral concerns.

Recently, I wrote down every dream that I have for myself and paired them with the steps I would need to take to get there.  This is one of the reasons why I have developed this space for me to share my passion with the rest of the world…but mainly for me.  I needed to prove to myself that I wouldn’t get in my own way anymore.  I’m not going to lie, I have worried about the criticism that I will more than likely get from others.  If others won’t be able to understand the purpose of my plans, or maybe even point out a few typos.  But, what I keep hearing more than anything, is that none of that matters.  What do I honestly have to lose?  I’m proud to have placed myself in an uncomfortable, yet positive situation.  My sister has let me know constantly how proud she is of me for backing up my dreams with some real action.  “You did it”, she said, and of course this made me smile :-).

What I want to do with the rest of my life.

Of course.  The Million Dollar question…

Flash back to high school.  My final year of high school had to be the first real moment for me to begin considering, what was next.  I know, I know.  I appeared to be a late bloomer in the eyes of many. Struggling to figure out how I would earn a decent living after college.  College…wait, I hadn’t even picked out a major yet!  This is just a glimpse of how I spent the next few years. Unsure, scared, so uninspired to focus on where my life was headed.

Fast forward to present day.  I can say with confidence, that I have finally figured it out!!  Some background info on me: I’m normally the quiet, play by the rules type of gal.  There’s nothing wrong with living by the book.  But for me, I needed more. I feel so loved by my sibbies (all 5 of them).  Each and every one of them has hinted at my apparent ability to “live on the edge”, try something new”, or be a “free spirit”.  I love how they are able to notice such qualities that I wholeheartedly strive for.  But-I had to be honest with myself.  I haven’t been living to my greatest potential.  Up until recently, there hasn’t been a calling in my life’s work where I squealed from excitement.  I have that now!

I am 26 years old, and have received my Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.  I want to dream so big, that questioning my sanity becomes a rite of passage.  I will one day have the opportunity to publish books, pertaining to Life, Relationships and Love.  I strive to develop a place of my own: a safe haven for treating both the mental and behavioral concerns of individuals, couples, and families.

I am blessed to have my own personal army of supporters in my corner.  My family, and my Moon and Stars (for my Game of Thrones fans).  He’s been nothing more than patient, encouraging, my friend, and my first blogger critic!

I hope to share my journey with all of you, and inspire others to keep on pushing for more!  Thanks for visiting my blog!