Category Archives: Inspiration: Motivation For Ya!

Making Life Happen

Hey everyone!

If you had the opportunity to do anything that you wanted, something that made you absolutely happy…what would that be?

While speaking with Nosyjosie at Mind Jo Business, she helped inspire this topic by letting me know how she had to change her thinking. Please check out her blog if you haven’t already done so. Her ideas and amazing, and her posts are encouraging and funny.

It’s no secret that we all want to be happy. So, wouldn’t you think that there were more people making this happen on their own? Let me ask you this…What honestly motivates you? Is this an internal pull, or an external pull, both? Are you calling the shots, or is a family member, a boss, a significant other, or social media reminding you what you should be doing…right down to the very second you should be doing so?

For some people, you most likely won’t have to rack your brain when coming up with your answer. You’ve already made it your business to do exactly what your heart desires. I commend ya! You have the means and the dedication to follow through with these desires.

For a very long time I was undecided and without definite direction. I was down on myself big time! I would remind myself of my age and link that up to where I was “supposed” to be. I would remind myself what I “needed” to be doing, because I’ve been hearing this for all of my life. How I should look, how I should be communicating with others, which careers to pursue based on the highest amount of income.  I had to really sift through these messages to find what I was looking for (I share the details in a previous post here).  It is not the best feeling to go against the grain, but often times this is necessary.

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I also understand that your current life situation may not always allow you to live how you’d like to.  Even if you are unable to fullfill your life-long dream this very second, how about planning for the future? How will you get there? What do you need to do? Who do you need to speak with? How much money will you realistically need to save? These are questions that will hopefully encourage you to begin living your best, because YOU have made this decision.

Get it DONE! It’s never too late.

 

XOXO

~FreeBryd

 

 

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Make Time For Happiness

“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.” ~Michelangelo

What do you think it will take for you to make those long-term changes that will immediately benefit your happiness?

I know each of us all want different things.  Many of us spend a lifetime just dreaming about how life could be different. How your job could be better. How you wish that your significant relationships would improve.  But, time continues to go by without us making any changes whatsoever.  Or maybe we don’t take a big enough risk, and we aim too low when attempting to satisfy our own happiness?

I don’t want to spend my life preparing to be genuinely happy, but never fully resting there comfortably.

The reality is that many of us do spend the majority of our lives planning and brainstorming how to make significant changes. But, we don’t always remain consistent with pursuing the steps to get there. Personally, I’m always thinking, reading, praying, and speaking with others, to help move me along in this area. I don’t like feeling stuck, and I definitely don’t want to feel like I’m not doing what’s necessary to live how I’d like to see myself within the next few years. I want to look back and feel confident in my efforts.

I’ve been hesitant about taking risks before. I will admit that I’ve let the fear of the unknown keep me wondering about the possibilities.

I’ve questioned myself plenty of times. I’ve realized that I can’t keep putting things off.  I have so many goals that I’d like to accomplish within the next few years.  So, I’m giving myself a timeline, with deadlines on when this will happen.  To start moving forward with my own plans, I am signing up for a local adult entrepreneur workshop. I’m exicted for this workshop for many reasons.  But, mainly because I am putting forth more effort to be genuinely happy, doing what I’d like to do.  Getting one step closer to my long-term plans!

What do you think it will take for you to make those long-term changes that will immediately benefit your happiness?

XOXO FreeBryd

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New Perspective

Well Hello There!!

My apologies for being MIA this past month in regards to my online community.  I’m more upset with myself for allowing my goals to take a back seat to everyday life.  The crazy thing about all of this is that I would think about what I needed to get done, but still did not put in the work to get closer to what I would like to do.  Sounds crazy right?! I know that some of us may experience similar feelings when “stuck”.  I don’t know what it was, but it wasn’t healthy.  I was cranky in other areas of my life, not just in my career goals.  I pretty much stopped doing about 85% of the things that I have been doing for as long as I can remember. motivation6

What bothers me most is that instead of making small changes, I just let almost everything go without a plan b.  I find myself repeating these patterns every few months or so, and it has been frustrating to pick back up again.  I don’t want to continue initiating something, and then not falling through with them.  Working out, blogging, and beginning the second stages of my long-term career prep, are some examples of things that I have not been committed to completely.

I believe that my biggest downfall was that I sometimes become frustrated with the process of reaching my goals, without being patient and understanding that I need to build a lasting foundation.  Honestly, I know that I’m going to have to remind myself of this from time to time, to recharge my own battery.

My only other alternative would be to complain about the small amount of time that I have to get things done, and then never get them done!

I want to put more action behind my motivation.  I’ve even started making a new vision board for the New Year. 🙂

I’ve heard that to establish a routine you need to repeat a behavior for about 30 days consistently.  Once I’ve established my routine, it became second nature for me to keep it up.  But once I’ve allowed two weeks to pass by, so did my motivation.  I have no one to blame but myself.  Granted, I have less “free” time than I’ve had in months.  But, I still have to set aside this time, if I truly want to see my goals come into fruition.  No excuses, because I’ve been spending more time in front of the TV!! I’ve decided to put in as much prep work for my next steps in my long-term plan.

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What has helped to re-engage you with your goals, and to motivate you again?

Peace and Love to all of you! Cheers to another year of getting things done.

 

XOXO FreeBryd

 

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Heart 2 Heart//Changing Your Attitude

Kicking off the Heart 2 Heart series with a lesson of love for yourself…change your attitude.

This speaks to me in such a huge way.  I have been somewhat stuck in a cycle of negativity.   I know…how awful!

I started to be short with loved ones, and I had no idea what was happening.  I of course was the last to realize that I was “stuck”.  When I woke up, I made it a point to do something different.  I wanted to change my attitude…in fact, I needed to do this.  I was only torturing myself, and this was beginning to weigh on my soul!

I know that I have been taking many of the things in my life for granted, and that is not how I want to live my life. I

I want to be happy, so why not make this happen?

I want to be successful with my goals, so why not take those first steps to change the direction I want to go?

I don’t want to complain all of the time, about things that I am not willing to change, so why not work on resolutions instead?

This is how I spent my day yesterday.  Yes, this is something that I have done in the past, but I allowed myself to get caught up again.  I wasn’t taking the time to replenish myself, and prioritize my own self-care. To be honest, this was an extremely refreshing day.  I realized that I was sabotaging my own happiness. What I needed was to check my own attitude.

*Sidebar* I always hear people saying that they will treat others how they are treated by those same people…I don’t even want to do this.  I really want to take charge of my own life, and not have anyone dictate my attitude.  Saying you want to be happy, and actually chosing to be are completely different….again, I’m realizing this now.  For such a long time, I knew what it would take for me to be happy, and alter my mood, but have been inconsistent with making this happen.

So simple, but yet I was making this much harder than it needed to be.

I really took the time to count my blessings, and appreciate where I was in my life.  As a result, my day was brighter.  I was less cranky and annoyed, and kept on smiling for just the thought of being in control of my own happiness.

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I am Thankful for…

  • My health
  • My boyfriend returning home safely after traveling for work for the last five weeks (for my own selfish reasons)
  • My family and my friends (for their love and continuous support. Thanks for sharing my blog with others, and encouraging me to be great!!)
  • My career which allows me to pursue my dream of helping mend relationships

What are you Thankful for?

~FreeBryd

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Encouraging Thunder Award//Thank You!

encouraging-thunder-awardI was recently nominated for such an incredible award by YOUnfolded! What an honor to receive the Encouraging Thunder Award! I am new to blogging, and this truly means so much. I love that Nena has been such an inspiration.  We connected not to long ago, and she continues to show her support by reaching out when she can.  Her blog is one I often frequent, due to the overflow of recommendations on how to improve your overall health, and ways to encourage others to be their best!

Per the rules so graciously provided to me, I will:

  • Enjoy the fact that someone thinks I’m awesome 🙂
  • Discuss my purpose in blogging
  • Nominate a few of my fellow bloggers to participate in this fun way of giving thanks to others

Why I chose to blog:

For the past few years, I have had this tug in my heart.  I felt lost.  I did not feel 100% certain that I knew what I wanted to do for the rest of my life.  This was frighteining for me, because I kept feeling as though this decision shouldn’t be that hard. I have been trying to figure out ways on how to fill that void.

After some serious soul searching, and sleepless nights, I finally figured it out.  I knew that I wanted to one day open up my own business where I could follow my passion of helping others improve themselves and their relationships, with the help of my degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.  My goal is to create a family space, where I can help lead others on the path of their choice, and provide them with useful skills to help them overcome the obstacles to their happiness.

I’ve always had some pretty big ideas about planning for my future, but I was always so quick to talk myself out of pursuing them.  I was the Queen of negative messages, and I was surely lacking the confidence to begin achieving more for my life.

Starting this blog was my way of changing that.  I no longer wanted to think about the possibilities of starting a business. I needed to make this happen.  My blog was the first step on my list of ways to push me out of my comfort zone.  I had to begin believing in my talents. I needed a way to help me find my voice, and pursue the things that I love most!  I want to continue documenting my growth in this transformation, as well as help provide inspiration, and knowledge on improving our relationships!

To show my appreciation, I am nominating these (5) bloggers for the Encouraging Thunder Award.  I definitely follow some pretty awesome people.  I’ve taken such a strong liking to the wonderful world of blogging, and have grown to look forwad to connecting with all of you daily!

  1. Family Love Does More: Angie Mc has been nothing but amazing! Her words have always been so kind! She has goals similar to my own, in that she provides wonderful tips and advice on how to improve yourself, as well as your relationships.
  2. EGOTist: One of my very first followers (not even sure if you knew that lol).  Actor, singer, AND a writer! You will be able to connect to her posts, because her style of writing makes you fee as though you’ve know her for years!
  3. Myasthenia Gravis: So down to earth and hilarious! She has left some pretty thought provoking comments on my posts.  🙂
  4. Estimating Infinity: Absolutely love her poems! They’re unique, and will leave you searching through the rest of her brilliant pieces.
  5. Lynz Real Cooking: Check out her page for delicious recipes from the Middle East! She also has some pretty cool stories to share from her experiences.

I am thankful to have connected with so many wonderful people! I wish that I could send this award to everyone individually! Instead, I am sending positive vibes your way!

Until next time loves!

~XOXO

FreeBryd

Inspiration//Changing Directions

Don’t lose focus of what’s important, because an obstacle gets in your way. This is only temporary. So, don’t allow temporary challenges to redirect everything you’ve set your mind to.

Regroup, and get it done!

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FreeBryd

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Inspiration//Make Your Dreams Become Your Reality

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Have you ever felt extremely unproductive before?  Well, that has been the story of my life for the past few days! I am so guilty lol.  I’ve been binge watching a series on Hulu (Devious Maids)! So much drama…but it’s also extremely addicting! This week, I’ve failed to go to the gym or update my blog as often as I’d planned. :-/ Needless to say, I couldn’t help but to realize how easy it is to fall into a comfortable routine, and forget about achieving your dreams.

In the past, I have always dreamed about doing more with my life, but never felt any real sense of urgency when considering the response to this question.  I had absolutely no clue how to begin preparing a life for myself, where my overall level of happiness scored close to a 10 on a Likert scale.

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Should I go back to school? What should I major in? Where will I find a job? So many questions to consider!

Last month I wrote a post specifically to address these concerns (https://freebryd.wordpress.com/2015/07/21/what-i-want-to-do-with-the-rest-of-my-life/).  I became so motivated to take off running with enough energy to run a marathon! I’m still very excited to continue pursuing what I love most: writing, and helping others build healthy relationships.

What I am saying is that I don’t want to lose sight on what I’ve promised myself I’d accomplish within these next few years.  I do worry that I’ll become sucked into the swift current of life, without giving my all to what I’ve planned for myself.  But, I can’t let that happen.  I need to remind myself daily what it is that I want out of life.

At this time, I do not have a vision board that I can refer to like I’ve heard others speak about.  Now I can honestly say that I understand the importance of creating something to this effect.  During these past few days, it was so easy for me to say, “I’ll do it later”, because I did not have anything in place to continuously remind me of my aspirations.  I absolutely need this!

I have a really long-winded way of saying don’t give up.  Don’t give up on your plans, simply because “something comes up”.  It is alright to take a break…but try your best not to lose sight on the bigger picture. Luckily, I have family and friends in my corner who are able to snap me back into reality. But honestly, this is not their responsibility.

I have to want more for myself, and I do.  I just need to find ways to encourage me not to lose sight of this!

Here is what I plan to do:

  • Create a detailed vision board (so I have no questions about what I want my future to look like)
  • Speak about my goals to others (the more I discuss this, the more I will speak this into existence)
  • Make a list of small steps that will help me reach my goals (less overwhelming for me to target smaller tasks first)
  • Listen to the advice I would give to others (not to be so hard on myself…I will make mistakes and have days where I want to give up–>but get back on track asap)

These little gems will help to keep me on the right path. Take a break, go on vacation, binge watch your favorite tv series.  We all need days such as these to help us recharge.  Just remember that sooner or later you’ll need to get back to what you’ve started.

What do you use to help motivate and remind you to continue pursuing your dreams?

~XOXO

FreeBryd

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Inspiration//What’s Holding You Back From Change?

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Annoyed with how someone has been mistreating you?  Not thrilled about your current status of your relationship? These are just a few of many complaints that I have heard, whether personally, or in conversations with others.  I felt compelled to address something that has been heavy on my mind, and hope that I can help provide some guidance to fellow complainers.

Listen, let me just share with you that I’ve complained a lot!  I know that I’m not alone, so don’t judge me too much. I know that communicating what upsets me comes naturally.  I’m sure my sister doesn’t mind haha! But then what?  I share this with others, and go on about my day only to revisit the same complaint the following day?  Sounds crazy…right?  Believe me I know!

Here is a book that has helped shake me out of the deja vu I was constantly experiencing:

Dance of Anger by Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D.

Originally, this book was assigned to me as a class assignment during my Graduate program. But, I’ve referred back to this book on several occasions.  Don’t get turned off by the description of the book being a “woman’s guide”.  I do not feel as though women are the only individuals who can benefit from this read. This book provides examples of how we complain about our life experiences, but often times do nothing to change the outcome if repeated in the future. In addition, Dance of Anger provides helpful feedback on how to break this cycle to make long-term changes in your interactions with others.

I’ve learned new ways of navigating through all of my complaining, to be able to brainstorm and attempt new solutions. Instead of dreading that conversation with someone (that normally goes sour before you’ve realized what’s happened), instead of feeling hopeless that your current situation won’t improve, try jotting down some possible scenarios to instantly reduce those troubles.  Sounds simple enough, but not many of us are able to think logically when experiencing feelings of anger, hurt, frustration or sadness.

Remember that you’re perfectly capable of impacting change in your life.  Just work on making these changes, INSTEAD of just complaining about them.

~XOXO

FreeBryd

Daily Inspiration//Be Your Best You

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There will be plenty of people who will doubt you along the way.  If not, then maybe they just don’t see where you’re headed.  Not everyone is meant to understand what you have to do to step out and be great.  Not everyone needs an explanation for your decisions.

Try hard not to focus on those messages and individuals that seem to be moving you away from doing what’s necessary for your life.  Remember not to lose sight on what makes you happy.

Who else is going to be responsible for that, if even you aren’t willing to give yourself some credit?

~FreeBryd

XOXO

Daily Inspiration

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I’ve realized that for a long time, I was comfortable with just living.  That became super boring! I needed to switch things up, and push myself to try something new…even if it scared me!  My hope is that managing my time better will help make my week less chaotic, and provide me with the opportunity to grow and become closer to fulfilling my life’s purpose.

One new thing that I have started this week was to create a plan on what I wanted to do throughout the week.  My plan consisted of:

~Starting a meal plan (figuring out my meals as best as I could for the week from Breakfast down to my snacks): If not I’ll end up eating late since I’m throwing something together last minute.  I chose meals that included food options that i currently have at home.  If need be, I’ll stop by the grocery store to pick up the remaining items. I also get many ideas from pinterst if I want to try something new.

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~Work out at least 5 times this week: Being active vs complaining about my back fat…lol.

~Set aside time to write blog ideas: I want to write, I want to create my own place one day where I can help families improve their relationships.  So, I have to learn how to communicate more, and find new ways of reaching others who may not necessarily ask for help.

What are you going to do to break out of your comfort zone?