Category Archives: Heart 2 Heart Series//Self-Care

New Perspective

Well Hello There!!

My apologies for being MIA this past month in regards to my online community.  I’m more upset with myself for allowing my goals to take a back seat to everyday life.  The crazy thing about all of this is that I would think about what I needed to get done, but still did not put in the work to get closer to what I would like to do.  Sounds crazy right?! I know that some of us may experience similar feelings when “stuck”.  I don’t know what it was, but it wasn’t healthy.  I was cranky in other areas of my life, not just in my career goals.  I pretty much stopped doing about 85% of the things that I have been doing for as long as I can remember. motivation6

What bothers me most is that instead of making small changes, I just let almost everything go without a plan b.  I find myself repeating these patterns every few months or so, and it has been frustrating to pick back up again.  I don’t want to continue initiating something, and then not falling through with them.  Working out, blogging, and beginning the second stages of my long-term career prep, are some examples of things that I have not been committed to completely.

I believe that my biggest downfall was that I sometimes become frustrated with the process of reaching my goals, without being patient and understanding that I need to build a lasting foundation.  Honestly, I know that I’m going to have to remind myself of this from time to time, to recharge my own battery.

My only other alternative would be to complain about the small amount of time that I have to get things done, and then never get them done!

I want to put more action behind my motivation.  I’ve even started making a new vision board for the New Year. 🙂

I’ve heard that to establish a routine you need to repeat a behavior for about 30 days consistently.  Once I’ve established my routine, it became second nature for me to keep it up.  But once I’ve allowed two weeks to pass by, so did my motivation.  I have no one to blame but myself.  Granted, I have less “free” time than I’ve had in months.  But, I still have to set aside this time, if I truly want to see my goals come into fruition.  No excuses, because I’ve been spending more time in front of the TV!! I’ve decided to put in as much prep work for my next steps in my long-term plan.

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What has helped to re-engage you with your goals, and to motivate you again?

Peace and Love to all of you! Cheers to another year of getting things done.

 

XOXO FreeBryd

 

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What are you Thankful For?

As I sit here on this joyous day before the Holiday, I find myself counting my blessings.

I am truly grateful that this year has been more “peaceful” for me.  What I mean is that I do feel as though I have made significant improvements in my overall well-being.  I think about the past when most days was a struggle.  There were times when I was unhappy or finding something to become easily upset about.  Now, I have been actively trying to just “relax”.  I know that I am naturally a high strung person…or at least I have been in the past.  Let me just tell you that this can be extremely time consuming, and simply not healthy.

Even in preparation for this upcoming Holiday, I was stressing about everything that I needed to do (laundry, pack, buy groceries for my contribution dish for Thanksgiving dinner).  I was overwhelmed, and even considered rescheduling a date night that was planned a few days prior.  But, thankfully I didn’t.

I told myself that I needed to keep prioritizing things that matter most.  My relationship gracefully making that list of course.  I would get to the other tasks that I needed to take care of.  I needed that break from my jam-packed to do list.  I felt refreshed! I needed to be selfish, and I was able to be just that.

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So, my hope for all of you celebrating Thanksgiving, is that you take the time to enjoy those moments with your loved ones.

Last time this year, I was busy making sure everyone else had a great time, before I could “take a breather”.  I’m sure no one even noticed how on the go I kept myself those few days.  Before you know it, you’ll be back to work, and maybe you even missed out on some family time.

Don’t let this happen to you!

~FreeBryd

 

 

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How REAL Are Your Relationships?

Hey All!

Let me just start by saying…I’ve missed the blog world. I won’t make excuses for being away for some time now. I wasn’t the greatest at balancing my new work schedule with everything else I had going on. I have some draft posts just waiting to be acknowledged, but haven’t been keeping up with writing. I’m really excited to shake the dust off.

Secondly, this topic was inspired by my home skillet Chanelle. She’s one of my besties, whose been in my life for over 10 years now. 🙂 She’s one of the same friends who I mentioned starting the GroupMe app with…where we can keep track of one another’s progress towards our fitness goals. That has picked up lately as well. I was talked into completing a 21 day clean eating challenge. No worries, because it will be ending right in time for Thanksgiving lol.

Any who, as my friends and I were chatting, Chanelle asked my friend Shana and I a series of questions. She wanted to know how we perceived her.  Specifically, what were some things we may have noticed that she may not be aware of.

Talk about being caught off guard haha. I was happy that she felt that she could easily come to me with such a loaded question. Providing feedback to her wasn’t extremely challenging, because we have a healthy relationship.

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How well do others know you? Are others comfortable enough to share openly and genuinely with you? 

This may be a no brainer for some, and can be extremely important in assessing the quality of your relationships with others.

I was asked to share some of my personal thoughts about her as a person. This is something that I honestly don’t find myself doing enough of. Not that I have a laundry list of negative things about anyone that I keep to myself. But, I’ve realized that I probably don’t share those “personal” thoughts and feelings as often as I’d like to.

For me, I find having honest conversations about how I perceive the other person as a benefit. I’m honored that my perspective can mean so much to so many people. I hope that others feel the same way when considering me. I also understand how difficult having tough conversations with others can be.  I still cringe a bit when having to “confront” the elephant in the room.  But, how else can we move forward? What helps for me is to just come right out and say it.  The more I wait and analyze exactly how I want to word things, the more nervous and uncomfortable I become.

I’ve also realized that I put so much thought into many of these conversations, when the other person doesn’t feel the same sense of awkwardness that I’ve been experiencing.  It was mostly in my head…!

I truly appreciate the relationships I share with so many wonderful people.  We inspire and challenge one another daily.  I prefer to keep it real, and not just dance around the difficult issues.

If you don’t feel completely comfortable with sharing honestly with friends and family, then what is getting in the way of knocking down these barriers?

~FreeBryd

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Law of Attraction

So, I have so much to be thankful for…I’m all smiles!

In the past, I have set goals for myself regarding my career, family, etc. I specifically remember my boyfriend and I having a conversation on this very topic.  He challenged me to write down what I was looking for career wise.  I knew what I wanted, and made the choice that day to create my mini version of a vision board.

My career goals were:

  • I would like to continue helping families in the mental health field (improve, and strengthen their relationships with others)
  • Advance in my career (first step: become a supervisor).
  • Balance my work week with being in the office as well as meet with families within the community (So, I get to plan and organize, as well as engage with others)
  • Have a flexible work schedule
  • Not work any weekends or Holidays

I feel extremely blessed to say with confidence that I have now been working at a new position, that meets every one of my goals that I’ve set for myself career wise at this time.  I didn’t believe that I would find such a position within the first year of writing these goals down initially.  The most exciting thing about this is the fact that I believed in myself.  I knew what I wanted, and went after this! I just didn’t know that I was doing everything I needed to do to help me reach my goals. Now I have that confirmation!

One of my besties, Chanelle, put me onto this Youtube video (Mastering The Art of Attraction).  This video discussed how we each have the ability to reach our full potential. But, doing so all starts with how you are talking to yourself.  You will attract like-minded people, you will attract the lack of money that you continue to complain about, and you will attract that job that you believe in your heart is right for you.

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Ultimately, you have a choice in how you will respond to what’s happened to you.

This isn’t a secret.  However, truly give this some thought…

My advice, is not to settle for what you do not  believe in.  If you’re unhappy, then change your thinking. Maybe even consider changing the people you’ve chosen to associate with.  I know everyone in my corner speaks positively as often as possible.  They push me to go after the more difficult decisions, and challenge me to obtain greater for myself.  Also, write down what it is that you want for yourself.  The more you do this, and communite these goals to others, the more you will continue to hold yourself accountable to them as well.

It feels incredible to get what you want!

What goals have you set for yourself, and what are you doing to make sure you reach them?

Much Love,

~FreeBryd

Upgrading Your Support System

What are some of the ways that you take care of yourself?

I spend a lot of time thinking of new ways that I can improve my overall well-being. I read new books (mystery and suspense appear to be my new thing), blog, listen to comforting music, and planning mini getaways.

Out of all of these options, nothing is more important to me than spending time with the significant people in my life.

I absolutely love being with my support team!

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But!

What works best for me is being able to communicate with others. Not just anyone, but someone who I can honestly trust with my feelings. Someone whose perspective means the world to me.  I enjoy being able to bounce ideas off of, and just vent to these listening ears.

I’m fortunate enough to have a huge group of people who will always have my best interests in mind. Being around these individuals helps me to reduce any unnecessary stress, make me laugh, and help to get my mind off of the latest “issue”.

Those of you who may be struggling to find energy, find yourself becoming more irritable and unhappy, and have tried different ways to recharge, with very little success…try reaching out to friends and family. They may not even know how much of a positive influence they can be in your life. You may not even know how helpful these individuals can be.

How do you make new friends?

While away in Mexico for my recent vacation, I pushed myself to meet new people. Instead of waiting for someone to “notice” me, I initiated many of the conversations with others. For the 7 days that I was in Mexico, I figured that I’d make the most of the trip, since this was basically my home away from home. I participated in activities that I would normally shy away from (pool volleyball is an example of this). The sound of the activity didn’t necessarily appeal to me, but I gave it a try anyway.

These structured activities were a great way for many new people to meet. My team obviously had a shared goal in mind, and we definitely worked hard with achieving this by any means (quite successfully might I add).  As I discussed in my previous post (My Time Away In Mexico), I was able to gain new friendships. I plan on keeping in contact with each of them!

You can also try to:

  • Join a gym to find a group of people who share similar interests (different classes: zumba, cycling, etc).
  • Have a potluck at your house (I plan on doing so this week). Each person can bring a friend in addition to a dish.
  • Spend time with co-workers (get to know them outside of work? Maybe you’ll have more in common than you think).

Don’t have any close family or friends whom you would consider confiding in? Take it outside then, and meet some new faces!! Many of us enjoy blogging, and even share some of the most intimate details of our lives with others within the blogging community. I think this is great! I absolutely love blogging, and look forward to continue meeting such wonderful people.

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How about using that same confidence used via Internet connection, and use that in our everyday lives as well??

Share a little bit more with others, be open to trying new things, and starting conversations with a new face. I’m hoping that you’ll be able to make some healthy, long-lasting relationships with new people. Your health just might depend on it!

But first, you’ll have to be willing to put in the work. I personally don’t thrive on relationships where I don’t feel as though I’m benefiting from. I want to share details about my life, and want others to be willing to do the same. So, be sure to have an idea in mind about what type of relationships you’d like to have with others.

How do you make new friends? What are you looking for in a friend?

~FreeBryd

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My Time Away In Mexico//Self-Care

Hi All, 🙂

I’ve never been on a vacation longer than 5 days. My boyfriend and I were able to relax, and refresh for 7 full days this time! We spent our getaway at an all-inclusive Secrets resort in Cancun, Mexico.

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Before this trip, I was beginning to feel run down. Both of us felt that this would be the perfect time to travel, since things had calmed down a bit for work.  I was eager to say the least, and even finished packing 2 weeks prior to our trip…I can never prepare enough lol.

To start off, I’m not a great plane passenger by any means.  I absolutely dread getting on airplanes, but I try not to let this keep me from traveling. I have a heart rate monitor attached to my watch. My resting heart rate before each flight ranged between 77-88. I’m not in the medical field, so hopefully this is standard. Anywho, once we entered into the air, my heart rate began increasing steadily. :-/ The first patch of turbulence I peaked at 142. My boyfriend probably thought I was losing my mind, since I kept my head in his armpit for most of each flight haha. But the flight was worth it.

Mexico was absolutely beautiful. The weather forecast called for rain for the entire 7 days. I was devastated, but quickly learned that these rainstorms were more like little patches of rain that lasted for less than 10 minutes.

Our resort was breathtaking. The only downside was that we were literally in the middle of nowhere. From the shuttle to the resort, it took about 35 minutes to get to our destination. Along the way, we passed the “hotel zone”, which is where the majority of tourists, and the locals meet to shop and eat. Yeah, yeah…I know 35 minutes isn’t that long. We could have very well taken a cab to enter back into the more populated area, but we decided not to. We met some incredible people during our stay, and spent the bulk of our time within our little community. 🙂

There were 7 bars/lounges, 9 restaurants (did I mention it was all-inclusive!!!!!), and 3 huge pools. I don’t think I’ve ever had as much fun as I did on this trip!

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*My favorite bar near the pool. On the bottom, there is a swim up bar as well.*

My favorite dish was the seafood paella. It came with mussels, shrimp, and calamari. I’ve never had anything this tasty before! Yuuuuuummmmm!

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What we did in Mexico:

Everyday a newsletter was delivered to our room. This was our way of becoming updated on the daily events and activities. They had a schedule beginning from 8 am, to after hours! There was something scheduled to fit every need.

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We were able to attend cirque du soleil shows, karaoke nights, live bands, comedy shows, hip-hop concerts, and participate in water sports.

On our 2nd night, I signed my boyfriend up to be a judge for the Mexican version of American idol. Wow! Everyone was a great performer, even if they couldn’t sing lol. It was just fun to watch, and everyone was willing to let loose! One guy even brought me to tears with his performance. I’m such a sap haha! His song was beautiful, and he gave us an incredible performance. Another woman sang with so much soul.

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Who knew that just a day later, we would connect, and swap contact info to keep in touch.

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While kayaking, I absolutely thought that I would get lost at sea. We chose the windiest day to go out and be brave souls, and this probably wasn’t the best idea for a nervous wreck like myself. We were extremely far into the ocean. I kept telling myself that there were sharks swimming beneath me in the dark water…crazy right?!

What I loved most was being able to sleep in, without having a set plan for the day. This is major for me, because I tend to live by the book most days (due to work, and enjoying having things set in place).  I hadn’t realized how much I needed this break from my “routine”. I enjoyed reading poolside, as well as by the beach. Take me back!

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My advice for others traveling to Mexico…

Load up on your sunscreen. We packed a bottle,  but I still don’t think this was enough. As we speak, my skin has already started to “crack” lol. Towards the end of the week, my boyfriend and I were rationing out the last of the bottle.

Please bring bug spray!! I don’t know why we failed to pack this! The mosquitoes don’t care what time of day it is…if you’re available, they’ll find ya! They took advantage of my innocence the very first night! That’s what we get for taking a trip to the beach to watch the sunset. Amateurs lol.

Plan ahead if you’d like to do excursions (riding ATV’s, swimming with dolphins, etc.). We planned to look into this when we got to the resort, but this wasn’t a priority. I don’t feel as though we missed out. However, if there was something set up before we arrived, I think that both of us would have been more motivated to go. Also, be sure to compare prices, because there are a few places that differ in prices.

Bring your appetite and be open to trying new dishes!

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Pics: (corn soup, stuffed ravioli, calamari, tiramisu, ice cream)

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Please share your experiences during your vacations, or any upcoming plans for re-charging/improving your self-care after such a busy year!

~FreeBryd

Learning About Yourself//Heart 2 Heart

I’ll start this post with a few questions for you…

What do you think you’re known for? What do you believe in? What are your goals? What are determined to do with your time?

Values: “A person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgement of what is important in life” (Dictionary.com).

These beliefs are what drives our happiness.  I stumbled across a blog by Kate the other day, @The Importance Of Values. Unfortunately I did not save the link to her blog properly :-(. She describes her experiences with being unable to find true happiness with significant others, due to not yet discovering what she wanted in those relationships.

I want each of us to begin focusing on understanding our values. Maybe you’re unsure of what exactly this may be for you? Or maybe you’re still exploring what’s important to you.

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Whatever the case, I strongly encourage each of you to begin re-evaluating your lives to find the answers to the questions listed above.

How can we expect others to “just get it”‘ if we have yet to figure this out ourselves.  Life would make so much more sense if we began to understand our core values.

Maybe this is the reason for your previous relationships did not make it over that 6 month mark, or the reason why you’ve been feeling so unsettled/unfulfilled in your job/career.  I agree with Kate when she discussed how these feelings can impact your relationships with others…I’ve been there. But not only were my relationships with others suffering, I was also stuck in a cycle of negativity. It was difficult for me to find any positives.  I was living my day, but not enjoying much of it at all.

Denying your values for the sake of others can also put a wedge in your overall happiness and feelings of fulfillment.  How long will you be able to keep up appearances simply to keep the peace? What about what matters to you?

I wasn’t able to begin feeling better about myself, until I decided to truly understand what I wanted for myself long-term. What I was willing to do to see my goals become my reality.

I wanted to be able to speak with confidence when someone asked me a question about what I wanted out of life, and where I was headed. If you haven’t experienced this before, the feeling of not having a purpose, and having very little to look forward to can be absolutely draining. I was miserable without actually knowing the cause, and how to “fix” this.

I started to journal my thoughts more, and reach out to others whom I normally looked to for guidance.  I asked them similar questions like those listed in the beginning of this post.  Their answers were not a specific guide on what I needed to do, but provided me with encouragement on how I could begin answering these questions on my own.

Disclaimer: I know that everyone has their own values and beliefs. So, I’ll spare the specifics of my own to keep the peace on this blog :-). But, if you’ve been following my blog, you have a pretty clear idea on what my values are (self-care, family, strengthening our relationships, and education…just to name a few).

What are some questions you still need to figure out the answers to about understanding your values? Who helps to inspire you to discover these answers? 

Much Love,

FreeBryd

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Heart 2 Heart//Changing Your Attitude

Kicking off the Heart 2 Heart series with a lesson of love for yourself…change your attitude.

This speaks to me in such a huge way.  I have been somewhat stuck in a cycle of negativity.   I know…how awful!

I started to be short with loved ones, and I had no idea what was happening.  I of course was the last to realize that I was “stuck”.  When I woke up, I made it a point to do something different.  I wanted to change my attitude…in fact, I needed to do this.  I was only torturing myself, and this was beginning to weigh on my soul!

I know that I have been taking many of the things in my life for granted, and that is not how I want to live my life. I

I want to be happy, so why not make this happen?

I want to be successful with my goals, so why not take those first steps to change the direction I want to go?

I don’t want to complain all of the time, about things that I am not willing to change, so why not work on resolutions instead?

This is how I spent my day yesterday.  Yes, this is something that I have done in the past, but I allowed myself to get caught up again.  I wasn’t taking the time to replenish myself, and prioritize my own self-care. To be honest, this was an extremely refreshing day.  I realized that I was sabotaging my own happiness. What I needed was to check my own attitude.

*Sidebar* I always hear people saying that they will treat others how they are treated by those same people…I don’t even want to do this.  I really want to take charge of my own life, and not have anyone dictate my attitude.  Saying you want to be happy, and actually chosing to be are completely different….again, I’m realizing this now.  For such a long time, I knew what it would take for me to be happy, and alter my mood, but have been inconsistent with making this happen.

So simple, but yet I was making this much harder than it needed to be.

I really took the time to count my blessings, and appreciate where I was in my life.  As a result, my day was brighter.  I was less cranky and annoyed, and kept on smiling for just the thought of being in control of my own happiness.

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I am Thankful for…

  • My health
  • My boyfriend returning home safely after traveling for work for the last five weeks (for my own selfish reasons)
  • My family and my friends (for their love and continuous support. Thanks for sharing my blog with others, and encouraging me to be great!!)
  • My career which allows me to pursue my dream of helping mend relationships

What are you Thankful for?

~FreeBryd

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Heart 2 Heart//Updating Your Self-Care

Hey Blog Family!

be-LOVE-I’m going to start this Tuesday Heart 2 Heart series, with a plan on taking back control of my promise to improve my health.  I don’t know about you, but when I work out, I feel better about myself. I prefer starting the day out with either making my way to the gym, or watching a fitness video at home.  My favorite trainer by far has been Jillian Michael’s! She’s cocky, but rightfully so. She will definitely kick your butt into overdrive!

This past weekend, my two best friends came to visit me.  During our time together, we made a promise to keep one another motivated throughout the week.   We’ ve each downloaded an app called Group Me.  What is this, right?

Group Me is also something I’ve had to learn more about.  It’s basically a way for you to send instant text messages, calendar invites, and much more into a group that you create. This app works for us, because we do not all carry the same phone service providers.  So, the three of us can all share messages at the same time, and each participate in the conversation without missing out.

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I’m really appreciate of the fact that I have such amazing friends, who are willing to encourage me to live a healthier lifestyle. Our plan is to update one another when we go to the gym, and check in with one another several times throughout the week. If we have any workout tips, training programs, or meal plans, we will update one another as necessary.

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Normally, I start off strong and make it about two weeks before I somehow fall off track. This time around will be different. I have more people holding me accountable for achieving my fitness goals. So far it appears to be working, because the three of us have already prepped our meals for the next day, and have worked out…well one of us has worked out at least :-).

Working out will help me increase those fuzzy feelings about myself, both inside and out!

What normally works for you to helps promote those warm and cozy feelings about yourself?

Love & Happiness to you all!

More to come on Be Free 2 Love…

Stay tuned for Wednesday’s #TeachMe series.  I’m sticking to the overall theme of my blog: improving the self and our relationships.  With that being said, this day I’ll be dishing out some cool facts, book reviews, and more. I’ll be providing you with some knowledge that will hopefully keep you well-informed. I want each of you to leave here with a new perspective on how to change your relationships for the better!

~FreeBryd

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Wellness Wednesday

How would you judge the quality of the “wellness” in your relationship?  Dictionary.com defines wellness as: an approach that emphasizes the prolonging of your life…or in this case your relationships.  How well do you need to know someone before comfortably agreeing to begin dating?

I am wondering what your thoughts are on friendships in your romantic relationships.  Is it necessary to be friends first, or can friendship come after you’ve already decided to begin dating?

I had the opportunity of interviewing some gracious volunteers to help begin our discussion.  Some background info on the individuals participating in the interview:

*Ages: 18-35 (male and female)

*Relationship Status: Single, dating & married

*Average length of relationships: 6 months to 4 years

*Each question targeted the experiences in their relationships (currently or in the past)

Here are the questions that were included during each interview:

1) What is your current relationship status?

2) If you are currently in a romantic relationship, were you friends first before deciding to see one exclusively?

3) If you were friends first, how would you say that has benefited your relationship, if any? If you weren’t friends first, how has this impacted your relationship?

4) What advice would you give others considering beginning a new relationship?  Is friendship mandatory before dating, or no?

Results:

Interview 1).

My significant other and I met in an academic environment during undergrad. During the first month or two we had brief conversations in passing, but we’re berry much so strangers. Just by coincidence or fate whoever it may be construed, these passing moments became more frequent and the conversations deeper. There was an obvious attraction between us which led to a dinner date. We dated for about two months before considering ourselves exclusive. I would not consider us as haven been friends prior to the exclusivity in that there was that obvious attraction that served as a catalyst for future interactions. In that same breath, those two months brought us extremely close. We became friends during that time period and later best friends in our relationship.

The strongest influence of not being friends prior to our relationship has been experienced during times of conflict. During serious disagreements and even cliched “breaks” lines of communication were completely disrupted. For example, say there was a bad argument or we decided we should take a break from dating there would little to no communication between us. Largely because we did not have that history of being friends outside of dating and that less intimate relationship to maintain. Take the polar opposite scenario, two best friends begin to date but later decide things aren’t working out. They likely are inclined to work towards restoring that friendship that led them to give it a shot in the first place. My relationship does not have that luxury. There is almost an “all or nothing” atmosphere to us and we don’t have that preexisting friendship to return to.

Being friends first is mandatory for a healthy exclusive relationship. However, that friendship can be developed before that exclusivity occurs. As seen in my relationship, there are some nuances to manage. However, talking through periods of disagreement and deciding on the levels of communication in times of turmoil are ways to overcome the shortcomings of not having a long friendship prior to being exclusive.

Interview 2).

Yes we were friends first and I do believe that to be the most important part in a lasting relationship. Nowadays, everything needs to be fast and it appears a lot of people want to rush the process. Knowing the person and being friends and actually liking to be around that person is what can get you through a lot of tough times.

Being friends helped because it allowed less pressure and promoted more ease in being myself. To me, the ability for two people to be themselves around each other without fear of ruining things with that person is a friend. Sticking a “boyfriend/girlfriend” label too early on muddles that.

My advice is QUALITY over quantity. Engaged people get asked the question “how long have you dated” and judgement is then given depending on the answer. In other words, if one couple says “we dated for three months” and another couple says “three years”, we quickly assume the later is better off. Taking time is great, but my advice is quality time. The couple with three months may have had numerous fruitful times together where communication flows, able to meet each other’s friend and family, and knows the other person very well. What I’m saying is dating, marriage is a big step and changes the course of your life. Do not take it lightly! Put in the quality (not quantity) time!

Click on the Relationships tab (or the link below) to see more results from these interviews.  Don’t forget to leave a comment.  Let’s talk about it!

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*I will be posting more results from interviews throughout the day on Facebook.com/FreeBryd*